So, after my ever-optimistic “Dare to Dream” post last month I headed into March feeling really good about everything. All seemed right in my little world.
I had direction and an end game when it came to my writing. Even if I wasn’t sure how I was going to get there.
I was adjusting to being an empty nester and even looking forward to free weekends that I could start to fill with unfinished projects.
I was in a rhythm at work, busy, but not overloaded. I felt like I was firing on all cylinders.
The first week of March when I started to feel ”out of sorts.” Everything seemed out of whack. My mojo was seriously off and I couldn’t put my finger on it.
OF COURSE THIS MADE ME WONDER…
Was it stepping back into the world of the music boosters at my Son’s former high school to help with a fundraiser I had already retired from? Going to a meeting after months of being away felt very strange. I most certainly felt out of place.
Was it the unexpected trip back and forth to my Son at college because his computer was on the fritz? This of course ate up a weekend. And the following Saturday because when I returned the computer to my Son, he injured his foot coming down the steps to meet me, which landed us a trip to the local emergicenter. So much for the free weekends to get back to unfinished projects
Was it the slow period at work that lasted longer than a day or two? Which is not the norm. So much for firing on all cylinders, my cylinders were stalling.
ALL THIS WONDERING DIDN’T HELP – IT MADE THINGS WORSE
It put me into an overthinking mode, especially about work and money. Which pushed me into the “how am I going to make ends meet if this slow period keeps up?” and “should I start looking for a P/T job just to be safe?” mindset.
My brain got caught up in a constant loop, chronically rewinding and reviewing the same thoughts over and over again. This is the kiss of death and guarantees there will be no resolve to whatever the dilemma was I had built up in my head.
This doesn’t happen often, but when it does, it takes over, usually for a day or two, and then I snap out of it. This time was different. It lingered, and meandered into every aspect of my life.
I wasn’t depressed. I just didn’t feel like myself. It felt like my sense of order was gone. I was not inspired about anything.
Even thinking about writing wasn’t enough to snap me out of the funk that had taken over. As a matter of fact I was at a loss for what the topic of this month’s post would be. Which is kind of ironic because being “out of sorts” is a perfect topic.
As the month unfolded things picked up at work, like a flip of the coin, so that helped me shake some of the funk, but it wasn’t completely gone. My mind felt very distracted at times, and my focus was off. And the fears of another slow down still lingered on the peripherals.
To be honest, as I write this it’s still kind of lingering around, especially with the writing. I’m truly struggling finding the words.
ADDED TO ALL THIS WAS…
My Son home on Spring Break for a week. Of course having my Son home is always nice, I enjoy the company, but it seems every time I start to get into the rhythm of just me at home, I have to switch back to being Mom full-time and all that goes with it, like making dinner every night. Something I don’t have to do when it’s just me.
And, this makes me feel like I’m starting all over every time my Son goes back to college.
AND LET’S NOT FORGET…
The time change. That certainly didn’t help. The first week went well, but by week two I started to feel like I had jet lag and it’s still lingering. I’m tired off and on all day at work, but at night can’t sleep through the night.
OH, AND THEN THERE’S…
Mercury retro from March 5 – 28th. Mercury retro can wreak havoc on many fronts, the most of which are all things electronic and communication.
Although mercury goes retro a couple times a year, I don’t recall ever experiencing this level of funk in the past, but considering all that has gone on, I can’t help but think it comes into play. Especially the mess with my Son’s computer and the stuff at work.
For those of you who aren’t astrologically minded, and would like to learn more about mercury retro, below is a link from my favorite astrologer Melissa Stratton.
As the month of March draws to a close, I am still teetering back and forth with coming out of the funk and meandering back in. Something is definitely off with me, but just what it is, is still not clear.
Despite all the wondering, I have not come to any clear conclusions.
Throughout the month however, I have tried many things to help break through the cloud of confusion. Some have helped, while others had no impact.
The one thing that aided me the best was verbal and written affirmations, especially in regards to my work/money anxieties.
Affirmations and prayer all tie into spiritual development and if there’s one thing I’m sure of, when on a journey of self-discovery, part of that journey has to tap into spiritual growth.
So, maybe this swirling cesspool of discombobulation is really just the universe nudging me, or should I say pushing me, to dig deeper into my soul before any real self-discovery can be accomplished.
IF there’s one thing I have discovered since becoming a parent, it is so much of my time has been spent doing, with very little time to just be. It is in those moments that we have revelations or discoveries.
I honestly don’t know what that means any more, and this month has certainly brought that to light. When I left my husband back in the nineties, I spent two years doing some major soul-searching. It was during that time I unearthed my love and passion for writing.
As I look back at that time, I remember how alive and free I felt. I know I can get there again. I just think it may take a little longer.
Why? Because I’m twenty-some years older now, and the life experiences I have had have made a huge impact on who I am now. Becoming a Mom being the most impactful.
Although my Son may be away at college, I am still caught between two worlds, the world of Full-Time Mom and Empty Nester. And it is in this limbo world I need to learn to exist, and grow.
SO, with all this said, I’m guessing my “out of sorts” feeling is one that will more than likely come and go until I can get to the other side of this limbo world.
Until then, I’ve got a lot of work to do. Let’s hope April brings greater clarity allowing me to move forward.
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